...or is he in some degree of open / polyamorous relationship? I've known numerous people that are in such relationships. Some have '...and I want know everything about it' rules (compersion and all that), and some have '...and I don't want to know anything about it' rules (which [potentially] allows them to turn off the misgivings detailed in the last paragraph). Regardless, once the 'I'm in a relationship' cat is out of the bag, unless it's wearing an 'and they have consented to me sleeping with other people' collar, it's game over.

Psychology graduate with interests in values and morality, cognition and executive function, and High Functioning Depression. Kiwi living in London, UK.

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